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Thursday, December 6, 2007
Computers!!!!
I can just never get on here to post!!! It is always saying the page is unavailable. Very frustrating. Yet, here I am, finally. I don't have much to say really. I have been going through the children on the website www.adoptuskids.org and thinking about the ones I click on and imagining and dreaming of them. I had such a vivid dream of these twin 5 year old and the next day they were gone from the site. I really didn't see us looking at foster kids to adopt from the beginning. I really just thought international was the way to go. I am sending a list of possible matches to Amy tonight and she is going to find out some more information on each group. You go on the site and type in the min. and max. number of children and the min. and max. for the age and what kind of special needs you are willing to take on and push a button and up pops a list of children matching the criteria. It doesn't say a lot about them other than things they like to do. Once in awhile you read they need to be the youngest or only children or the parents need to have a special understanding of their special needs but otherwise it is like I'm describing my own children. We have gotten out the heavy artillery and have been praying several times a day for God to help lead us to what child or children would work in our home and with our children. I also expanded my list up to 10 years of age. I was keeping it younger before but what beautiful children there are. Please remember all these children in your prayers. They all need someone to care for them and train them in the Lord. God's Blessing upon the motherless and fatherless this Christmas season.
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We tried for two years to adopt children out of foster care and finally ended up going international. I know it's not a second best choice, because Haiti is where our children were at. But now it's a matter of a very long wait.
Hi - we did adopt through the fostercare system. We had Red from the time he was 3 weeks old until we adopted him at age 22 months. We had signed the adoption agreement when he was 13 months.
Until that time he was a foster child. In Minnesota we were considered a concurrent foster home. That meant that Plan A and Plan B were working together at the same time. Plan A was working with the parents to attempt reunification - if reunification ended up not being possible, then the county would petition to terminate parental rights. If that happened then Plan B would occur - the foster parents adopting. We had to be ready to let go of Red. It is a hard way to go - but for many children it is best. They are placed in homes that are willing to work with the county in reunifying with the birth parents, and willing to adopt if birth parents fail.
The kids you are looking at on the website already have the parental rights terminated.
This site has lots of links:
http://www.comeunity.com/adoption/waiting/photolists.html
As I have already been through this - spending hours looking at darling pictures - I want to give you some advice. And you can stop reading here if you want :)
I have been on "both sides" - as a foster parent, adoptive parent and as someone who has worked in the mental health system. The children you are generally reading on are portrayed in the best possible light in order to get interest. Of course they need homes - and I would be the first to say help them out. But realistically, what you are reading may sound like they're describing your own children - but they aren't. If they were, they would not have tarried in the system so long. By the time children are placed on those sites, is because the county has not been able to find placements for them otherwise.
When we decided to go the foster to adopt route we were pretty clear what we could and could not accept. We decided without question that we could not accept FAE or FAS. I knew this was something too much for me.
We also knew that if God wanted us to have a child, He would provide a child without us going into debt. This was for US - it is not something I would criticize someone else for.
I'm a rather dense person. For God to get through to me has to be pretty clear. That's why we set those limits - we knew then that if a child came our way it was God - and not our own desire.
Our foster care license is good until April 08. DH and I decided that we would be willing - very willing - to accept a child or two. But it will have to be before that - we won't renew our license.
I don't know if this was especially helpful -but I can really sense your frustration.
I hope I didn't add to it.
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